ALL ABOUT TIPS

Arousal is physical and psychological and marks the beginning of the sexual response cycle. A person becomes stimulated or 'turned on' and the body reacts to the stimulus. The penis becomes erect, the vagina lubricates and the body prepares itself. But stop just one minute, what happens if the spirit is willing but the body does not co-operate? For people with illness, or disability the usual pathways to sexual arousal, intimacy and orgasm may have been disrupted. There may be no erection, no lubrication or more frustratingly, no access. What then? There is a solution, an alternative route leading to satisfying orgasms and sexual satisfaction. Scientists always knew there was a strong connection between breathing and our mental state. Bad breathing produced sluggish mental ability and the corollary is also true. Stress causes tight and shallow breathing. When the mind concentrates on something specific, breathing slows or may temporarily stop.

Mantak Chia writing in The Multi-Orgasmic Man described the breath 'as the gate through which you can gain control of your body'. We breathe without thinking about it, but we can change the rhythm or depth of our breathing. When you experience sexual arousal, your breathing changes. At first you inhale more deeply, but then this becomes rapid and shallow. Shallow breathing results in oxygen starvation, leading to reduced vitality, premature aging, poor immune system and other factors. Deep breathing is what connects us to our sexual centers and deep breaths help us reach our full orgasmic potential.

A deep breath - a larger-than-average inhale -is called a 'charging breath' by Jack Johnston, author of "Male Multiple Orgasms Step-by-Step," who says our body craves more oxygen as our level of arousal increases. These breaths somehow help us charge our sexual excitation system.

What seems to occur is that breathing becomes 'upper chest' faster, shallow and more panting. For men, ejaculation can rapidly follow. Jack Johnston replaces this pattern with a technique called the 'Multiple Orgasm Trigger' slowing down panting breaths to 'charging' breaths. This delays ejaculation, making it more pleasurable if ejaculation is part of a man's normal sexual activity.

Jack explains that instead of suddenly needing to interrupt the natural sexual flow to prevent or control ejaculation, a man can bypass the 'process of inevitably' that usually leads to orgasm followed by the ejaculation response. Orgasm and ejaculation are not the same event. Orgasms are emotional energetic reflexes. They are often the desired effect of arousal, consisting of waves of intensely pleasurable emotional and physical sensation often accompanied by involuntary bodily muscular movements. In contrast, ejaculation is a glandular reflex including the sensation of crossing a physiological 'threshold' triggering a series of automatic contractions of the prostate gland to expel seminal fluid.

Just as you cannot stop a sneeze, so too does a man experience 'the point of no return' as they approach orgasm accompanied by the ejaculation reflex. Orgasm and ejaculation seem to occur simultaneously, but the good news is that they don't have to. Men can experience multiple orgasms without erection and without ejaculation, and without a refractory period with this technique.

Jack describes men enjoying multiple orgasms, 'switching gears' then enjoying orgasm with ejaculation. The men who have learned this method report that orgasm with ejaculation subsequently tends to be noticeably more pleasurable than they had experienced prior. In addition to breathing, the balancing part of the technique involves using two-part sounds that triggers a multi-orgasmic response instead of an ejaculation reflex. Jack dubbed this the 'Key Sound Multiple Orgasm Trigger (KSMO)' "Because it is the key that unlocks our natural ability to experience multiple orgasm," he says.

"You won't always have to use the KSMO," he said. "It helps you teach your body how to be open to multiple orgasm without the distraction of trying to block or control ejaculation. Once you unlearn old patterns of limited sexual arousal expectations, then you will be able to access the multiple orgasm energy at will. Once learned, the technique can become automatic."

The new pattern helps change breathing in a manner opposite to the pattern triggering the ejaculation reflex, increasing and intensifying erotic enjoyment. Pleasurable feelings surge through the pelvis and through the rest of the body, not just in the genitals. Using the technique can identify feelings Jack says are 'signals' that you are tuning in to the multiple orgasm capacity lying dormant within you, discovering an ability to experience intensely pleasurable feelings.

KSMO may offer hope for men and women living with disabilities including premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, loss of feeling in the genitals, spinal cord injury, etc. As the technique is based on arousal rather than erection, and is not a version of stop/start ejaculation control, or PC muscle squeezing; persons living with disabilities may be able to learn the technique of adding multiple orgasms to their intimate life as long as they experience any erotic feeling in any part of their body.

Robert is caring widower in his 70's living in Eastern USA. His medical conditions of diabetes (30 years), cardiac problems, upper body surgery and radiation treatments have taken their toll on his body. Robert no longer experiences erection. He said "I lost some of the nerves and have lost all of the ability to feel." However he is still able to experience indirect arousal. So using an anal technique stimulating the 'hot spot' near his prostate gland combined with the key sounds and breathing, Robert experienced orgasms of the kind he had never felt before.

He described his experience akin to steps, like climbing the stairs. Then he used the key sounds and savored an orgasm that felt like it lasted ten minutes. "I got up on top of the stairs and all I had to do was look down. I was at the highest point and I just stayed there." He described his earlier sex life as unsatisfactory with a normal orgasm and ejaculation lasting about five seconds. "It seemed like it went on for 10 minutes. I thought I was going to pass out. It was delightful. I was doing key sounds with every four breaths ... I looked down and my penis was flat, with no erection, but I felt an intense and very delightful feeling. It overwhelms. I got on top of the orgasm and stayed there ... A different kind of feeling all over." He said that afterwards he felt very good about himself.

Robert's advice to others is to stick to it. "Find the right sound (for you) and stick to it. Relax more and don't force the issue. Pardon the pun, but stick at it and eventually it will come."

Jack's discovered his technique seemed to work well for women. Mari is a single parent and medical professional in her 30's living in Western USA. With a brain-stem injury and a degree of physical disability, she was fearful pursuing surgery or exploring her sexuality, as she was aware of the risks. She feared an orgasm could cause a stroke, so she approached Jack's technique with skepticism. What she already understood was how the nervous system worked. As a woman, she also felt intimidated and wondered if men learned these techniques, would women become redundant?

After Mari experienced the technique and orgasm, she realised those were negative thoughts. The orgasm came from a deeper place and by using the key sounds and breathing she had control to amplify the intensity of her level of feeling. This knowledge was empowering and gave her full control, which she needed. She said experience and practice was the key. "As I became more active, it let me know I was OK. It validated me as a woman and the program supported me. I didn't have to worry. I'm not going to have a stroke."

Mari's advice to others is that "If you have neurological problems you can have some setbacks. But with KSMO, the technique works. It is worth looking into whether you are disabled or not." For couples; "it can enhance the relationship, not just in the bedroom." Some women found using key sounds the same way as men also gave enhanced multi-orgasmic waves of pleasure. The challenge for men was to separate ejaculation and orgasm without using any artificial last minute penis squeezing, muscle tightening or other unreliable methods. Persons who have learned to experience key sound orgasms consistently reported they were more intensely pleasurable and of greater duration than previously experienced. Jack's technique is based on bypassing the ejaculation reflex altogether with no sense of having to hold back, while at the same time triggering a multi-orgasmic reflex.

Robert B is a 27-year old male suffered a disabling back injury in an auto accident when he was 19. He has six injured vertebral discs along with a “LOT” of muscle soreness and some peripheral neuropathy to boot. After the injury, sex became a difficult issue for him. It was difficult to relax his body enough to feel much pleasure and ejaculatory orgasm resulted in extreme sciatic pain in his sacrum and hamstrings. When Robert first learned of the Multiple Orgasm Trigger six months ago, he was doubtful he could follow the instructions without finding some aspect that would be too much for his fragile body to comply with. To Robert’s surprise, the simplicity of the technique was perfect for him. The focus on relaxation instead of specific muscle control made the difference. “It was all so much easier than I expected. I had my first multiple orgasm after about three weeks of practice. I'll never forget it! After about eight consecutive orgasms I was actually in tears. I felt like I had released sooo much pain and sorrow in just a half-hour or so. It was amazing...” Jack said that once a person, male or female, learned to experience these kinds of orgasms, it was as if 'energy pathways' remained open. Subsequent sexual activity found that these non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms are frequently much more easily accessible.